We all know that sometimes we can all fall into the trap of showing injustice to our soul, often unintentionally. However, we frequently talk about how others mistreat us and demolish our soul.
But right now, I want to focus on us, hurting Our souls. I want to focus on what we do exactly, how we do it, why we do it and when do we do it.
Let’s start off with why we hurt our souls (often unintentionally).
The answer: We do so to escape the feeling of pain…ironic eh? But do we actually relive that pain??
Now, the what, how and when we do it is for example when: A person goes through troubling times at work and at home and does not have a good support network, so to relieve the pain and loneliness he or she turns to drugs.
Here of course, we have not relieved the pain. We’ve just added another type of pain, so then, what is the solution?
What do we do when we are facing troubling times?
Well, we need to stay far away from things like drugs, smoking, over eating, sex (for the sake of reliving emotional pain) because all of these can lead to greater emotional pain.
The question is: How do we deal with emotional pain?
There are so many ways of dealing with emotional pain…articles can be written on all of these ideas:
Number 1: Connect with a Higher Power (God):
Since we are spiritual human beings, it is important that we clean and nourish our souls from harm. You can connect through a simple prayer and ask for guidance.
Number 2: Speak to someone.
It can be super difficult to speak to someone about our emotional pain. The reasons could be that we want privacy, we don’t want to feel ashamed, we don’t want to be blamed, etc.
By keeping your feelings inside you will eventually break down and so to avoid this stage, seek comfort by speaking to someone you trust, it could be a crisis help line (you don’t have to be going through a crisis to call, if you feel sad, down or lonely, they would like to listen and to help make you feel comfortable again), friend, a family member, your neighbour, your doctor, your therapist… you can also find face book support groups for different types of struggles, e.g there is a face book support group for those struggling with depression, with drugs, with alcohol, with smoking, with over eating and under eating, etc.
Number 3. Speak to yourself out loudly…
(so that you can hear what you are feeling)
Ask yourself, what am I feeling, why am I feeling this way, what are the different positive things that I could do to make myself feel better and to resolve this issue.
You can also keep a journal and write down what you are feeling, when you have started to feel it, why you are feeling that way and what kind of things would you do to resolve the issues and make yourself feel better.
Number 4: Talk to yourself as you would speak to someone who is seeking your advice.
What would you say to someone who is going through exactly what you are going through?
What kind of options would you help him or her come up with?
What would you advise them not to do?
The first two are essential and should not be dismissed or underestimated.
I hope you had a positive reading experience learning about the four things that we can do when we feel down or frustrated, as opposed to seeking harmful alternatives.