Why you should have hope when you are depressed

Why you should have hope when you are depressed?

Hope is necessary to everyone’s life. Those living with depression and  those who aren’t all need hope. That is because hope allows us to do things, to take good care of ourselves and others, and to let go of all that drains us.

Having a seed of hope allows you to consider seeking help. A supportive individual in your life and a mental health professional such as a doctor, a psychiatrist or a psychologist will help you in the healing process.  These health professionals help identify the problem, consider ways of resolving the problem (although you may be thinking that there is no way my problem can be solved, you never know unless you give it a try!)

Tip: Working with a mental health professional such a psychiatrist or a psychologist in identifying the problem and dealing with it through cognitive behavioural therapy will help you heal. Bringing hope to the table allows you to easily grasp the advice you are given by the health professional and speed the recovery.

How hope changed the lives of the following individuals:

“There is life at the end of the tunnel…people are thinking oh yeh, back off you stupid old woman. But I felt like they may be feeling right now. And I would never never believe that I could  be as well. I am more well than I have ever been in my life. My life is better in terms of I have a bounce in my step..I enjoy every day.”

Female, 50 years old

Most people, and I stress most people, do recover from depression…It can lead you to self harm, if you so get that far along the line. But if you cling on to the thought that most people recover and that you will get better…I would just stress that you need hope, you need hope that it is not the end of the line for you. You are very likely to get better but you need time. And you needn’t be too hard on yourself and think that you’re a failure and you’ve got it all wrong…you cannot see the end because your circumstances are such that you’re locked into this cycle of hopelessness, you can’t function, your brain doesn’t function, and you can’t believe then that you’re going to be okay as a human being, in which case you’ve just got to hang on. It’s lovely if you got the support and encouragement of those around you, but you’re not necessarily going to get that, and we needn’t pretend that you will. But as I say most people do get better with depression.”

Male, 67 years old

Where can a person find hope?

Remembering the joys of the past can bring you some hope! Can you recall the movie nights you had, what about the time you enjoyed a good read, how about the nice walk or a good and enlightening conversation you had. These memories remind you that there certainly was good times in your life. Although you may not feel passionate about life as you used to, things will change, they have to, nothing stays constant.  Who knows, maybe things can change for the better. Recalling the good memories you once had will help bring hope again to your life.

Why not be hopeful?

 

What is there to lose if you are hopeful? What are the disadvantages of being hopeful? I certainly cannot think of any.

 

In summary, hope is a necessity to everyone’s life, whether or not you have depression. Hope is especially needed for the beautiful souls of the depressed. Although having hope is not necessarily easy, it is certainly attainable. Recalling past good memories can help you remember that there were good times in your life and that it wasn’t all dull. With some patience and hope things will sway to change. After all, there are no disadvantages to acquiring hope, are there?!

 

It is all you need to change your life, I speak from experience.

The question for you is, what if you just had a seed of hope?!

Hope amidst depression [a critical read]

Hope according to me:

Hope is something we all aspire to have, but it is a dire need for people with depression. People with depression experience helplessness and hopelessness. Hope for a depressed person can literally save their life. Hope is air for the depressed person. In this post, I would like to shed some light on hope and  how a seed of hope can save a life.

 

 

During a gloomy episode, where all light is sucked out of you leaving you with no light, that is when hope is most needed. Hope is a source of light to your soul.

 

 

In the dictionary, hope is defined as “a feeling that is wanted and can be had.” Another definition is “events will turn out for the best.”

 

 

The question is can a depressed person be hopeful and optimistic?

Yes! It is not easy to do so but it is CERTAINLY attainable. A depressed person finds it very difficult to be optimistic. To a depressed person, everything feels and looks gloomy. ‘There is no reason to be optimistic if everything is gloomy.’

 

I remember when I was at my lowest point in life, I thought to myself, “although I know things are NOT going to get better, I am going to have a seed of hope.” And that’s all it took from me. A seed of hope. The question that I present to you is ‘what if you had a seed of hope?’ how might your life change?

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The effects that can take place when you judge someone!!!

The effects of judging people are astonishing! There is a lot of damage that is done on those who have been judged. Remember, a dirty look is also considered a judgment. Let’s not forget that 70% of our communication is non-verbal. That means, most of the time, we communicate with our bodies.

The way we stand, the way we walk, our facial expressions, smile versus no smile, frowning, raising eyebrows, turning body away, rolling eyes, etc…these are all ways that we communicate in.

Any negative non-verbal communication can leave a permanent mark. It can literally shake the person. It can make them fall apart or break down. This may not happen to everyone, but there are sensitive souls out there.

For them, these judgments can change one’s belief about themselves. They may think that they are less and unworthy. They may think their ideas and point of view are useless. When they experience negative judgment over and over again, they may start to believe in the judgments of others. Now, that is where it becomes dangerous. Some people may believe this and some might let it just brush off of them…. It is really important to be aware of your body language and tone of voice. These can either build or destroy humans. What you do to others will be done on to you-some day!

Thanks and with love

Your mercy!

What is mercy? Mercy defined by dictionary.com as “compassionate or kindly forbearance shown toward an offender, an enemy, or other person in one’s power, compassion, pity or benevolence.” Another definition is, “an act of kindness, compassion, or favour.”

 

Mercy is an interesting topic, well at least to me. It is something that is so forgotten about or maybe nowadays people don’t know what it is! Its sad. Mercy to me means:

 

Elderly woman in wheel chair holding hands with young caretaker

 

 

 

 

-a nice warm welcoming, kind smile

-a kind word, that is optimistic and loving

-a gentle touch

-a soft look that is kind, as opposed to a disgusted, envious, proud look

-holding the door for someone

-donating/giving money to a homeless person

-being gentle with the young and adults

Why have we become so stingy in showing mercy?

Maybe that is why we are in the current tired shape. We are supposed to be advanced now. We are, when it comes to technology. When it comes to character, its very sad to see that it is getting worse. And this I believe is widely seen in our globe.

In all honesty, I am quite jealous when I see someone with great character, meaning someone who constantly shows mercy to others. I believe this a very rare feature. Therefore it is the most expensive.

Prophet Mohammed (peace be upon him) said: “the dearest to me among you and the nearest to me on the Day of Judgement are those who have the best character”  (Sunan Al-Tirmidhee). Good character is one of the best virtues anyone can have. And Islam reinforces this character widely in the Quran and in the teachings of the Prophet may peace be upon him.

Let us try to show mercy to everyone we meet today. Okay, to one person is great as well 🙂

People’s Judgement of Others

 

Perhaps the worst thing one can have in their personality is to be “judgmental.” By this I mean someone who judges others all the time. I find such a person to be so proud.Someone with that kind of character has little mercy. How can one judge and show mercy at the same time? It’s an oxymoron. Also, who put that person in a place to judge? I don’t think anyone hired them…for one thing though I think the reason why these people judge is because they think they are better.

Such a personality is known to be narcissistic. Self-centred personality. It’s actually a disorder in the field of psychology.

 

 

Why do certain people enter our hearts? O.o?

What makes someone enter your heart?

Sometimes the person’s great qualities capture your attention because these qualities are themselves admirable.

Think about this:

A girl falls for this boy. Her friends ask her, “why do you like him?”

The girls answers well, he is…..

-well mannered

-kind/gentleman

That means this girl has seen these qualities in action!

Similarly, for you to love God, you must open your eyes to His qualities. God has 99 names. And each name represents a quality. You can also recall the things He has done for you in the past, these things probably saved your life/a close one’s life.

Let’s look at one of His names out of the 99 names. The name He has is…

The Loving. This is the quality. But, how do we know that God is really loving? Where is the proof?!!

He takes care of you. You physical system is working. You have a bed to sleep in.

 

 

He has given you many things.

How many things do you have? Okay, that would be a long list! Never mind. How about, how many things do you have on you right now?!!

My clothing (my shirt and pants), my shoes, my socks…..

When you see the many things He has given and done for you, you then believe in His qualities.

All Loving, the AL in the Arabic language refers to:

  1. The Greatest at….
  2. Infinity

Now, knowing the above, this means:

-God’s love is the greatest and that love is infinite.

So, this explains why some of us fall in love. It is when we see or feel admirable qualities. 

You will be surprised to hear the explanation to this phrase: Love people, but don’t place them in your heart

You will find below a simple yet wise explanation from Yasmin Mogahed ‘s work.

 

Happy reading!:)

 

When you have someone/ something in your heart, other than God, you will suffer emotionally! There are no exceptions after this! Having someone in your heart out of your love for them, means that you give them control to your heart and to your happiness.  Literally, the other person has that full control!

Take for instance: Your love for this person is so great, that you cannot stand not having them with you all the time! Well…what if that person cannot be with you all the time??? What will happen to you then?

Because your love for them is deep in your heart, you might actually break down! Now think for a minute: Is loving someone so deep in your heart healthy for your emotionally and physically?

 

I am not saying that we should not love our partners, children, family, friends and the community. However, think of love this way: Yasmin Mogahed (a spiritual teacher) explains that there are two types of love. There is the love in the heart and the love that you carry in your hands.

The love in your heart is for one thing only and that is for God! That means the love of everything else (wife, children, family, etc.) is to be loved and be admired by holding them close to your heart like you hold a baby.

 

Loving the wrong way can create immense heartache, sometimes leading to harm to the physical body and to mental health.  See how loving the wrong way can be harmful?!

So because our heart is a sacred part of our body, we should be careful with what we place inside of it.

For further explanation, click on this post! “Loving outside of my heart??!”

Loving outside of my heart??!

Hey lovely people! I am telling you to love people but do not put them in your heart.

 

Now I understand the explanation in the previous blog post (You will be surprised to hear the answer…) about this way of loving may not be easy to grasp, simply because the entire world knows that love means having someone in your heart!!!

However, there are people in this world who follow the explanation provided above ( loving someone outside of the heart [i.e. loving the person by having them in your arms close to your heart!]). The advantage of applying this is, when there are relationship issues,  there will be less heartache!

 

 

 

 

 

Please keep in mind that loving someone by holding them dearly in your arms is still considered sincere love.. remember, the whole point of choosing not to place anyone in your heart is so heartaches don’t happen!! That’s all. There are no agendas after this 😀

When you control what should and should not go in your heart, you will certainly feel and become powerful! When you are powerful, you are not bound to anything. That means you are not tied down!! You have freedom! And you must be free to experience happiness!! Freedom can have many contexts. The freedom I am speaking about in this post, is the freedom of the heart!

Choose to love wisely, if you don’t want the heartache!

~All souls are worthy~

 

 

 

 

 

 

I Love Myself ❤❤❤

♥♥♡♥♥ Just because people don’t show love and mercy towards us doesn’t mean we have to stop there and put our lives on pause. If we did then we would be doing injustice to our soul.

 

People should be showing each other love and mercy. But if they don’t, then we have to show ourselves extra love and mercy. Another word for that is self care.

 

Always remember, I need to love my soul before others love me. That is more important to me!

 

I need to take care of myself. Love myself to the fullest.

 

I should not let other people’s behaviour control my emotions.

 

Yes, I can be upset at their behavior and I have every right to cry. But, I am not going to carry their behavior with me all day along.

 

I will not let their emotions control me. I will not be at the mercy of their behaviour.

 

I will love myself to the fullest, regardless if they choose to do so or not.

I choose to love myself the way I am! 🙂 ❤

Yes, a mother can offer you what you desire

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A mother can offer children:

1- non-judgmental listening ear

2- kind looks

3- gentle touch

4- positive words

5- support for me!

6- believe in me.

etc..

A mother should & can provide you with anything that you may need.

Now realistically speaking, some of these listed above, if not most of them may not be given by our mothers!

What then??

The only way out, is to replace that love with something else.

Imagine.

Imagination can create reality.

Imagine that you had a mother, with the descriptions listed above, how would you feel right now? Can you imagine the kindness, tenderness and softness of the love of a mother?

How do you feel right now?

You feel different!

What if you imagined this today and every time you were down? Who would you be as a person? Will you have self- love? Self-acceptance? More optimism? Would you be more approachable as personal growth takes place? More outgoing? More smiley? More kind?!!..

Through this activity, I guarantee that you will feel loved, respected and fulfilled!

Finally, what do you think of this? Can you do it? Another question, can imagination change my mood, spirit and emotions?

Guided Imagery has been used worldwide to counsel people and is also used for personal growth! So, yes!! Let’s use it to our advantage.

With success towards self-love.

Thank you,

Laila

YOUR ARE WORTHY.